Best friend dating brother in law

Reassure them that their parents still love them, and that the divorce is absolutely, positively not their fault (often a child's biggest fear or suspicion).But resist trying to answer specific questions about "what happened." The truth is that you don't know the details.By the same token, be sensitive to both of their feelings by not telling either of them about the time you may have spent with the other person and ensure both of them that anything discussed when you are with them will always be confidential.Your brother is getting a divorce but you've grown close to your former sister-in-law and want to remain friends with her.Presuming that the four of you are all friends, try your best not to choose sides or leave either of them out in the cold."Divorcing spouses often find they lose friends and are excluded from events they normally attended, which is a shame," says Swann.

"Their children may talk to you before they talk to their own parents," notes Swann.Swann also notes that you'll likely have to alternate invitations while the divorce is still a sensitive subject, by having your brother and the kids over for a big family BBQ one weekend and then asking his ex to come over with the kids for a play date the following weekend, for example.If your brother is upset that you are still friendly his ex, be respectful of his feelings.The best thing you can say in this situation is simply, "I'm here for you." In a way, supporting a divorcing friend is not unlike supporting a grieving friend, because divorce—even if she wanted it, even if it's relatively amicable—evokes similar feelings of loss.

"She needs your support and friendship more than anything else," says Swann.

Remember, it's not your job as a friend to take sides as much as it is to support and be there for her and him.