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Remember, it's not your job as a friend to take sides as much as it is to support and be there for her and him.If the female half of the couple is asking you to drop her ex from your friend list, tell her—as kindly as you can—that you're there to be her friend, but you're not actually angry with her ex, says Lancer.Reassure them that their parents still love them, and that the divorce is absolutely, positively not their fault (often a child's biggest fear or suspicion).But resist trying to answer specific questions about "what happened." The truth is that you don't know the details.



Dream up different things to do together that don't involve spending cash, such as nature walks, free concerts and dinners at home.There's no denying that divorce is hardest on the couple and their children.But its effects can ripple out into the splitting spouses' social spheres as well, often causing disruptions when friends and family members aren't sure about what they should say or do when it comes to interacting with the now-split couple. "A lot has to do with our own emotional reaction to a close friend or family member's divorce," says Margot Swann, founder and director of Visions Anew, a nonprofit divorce resource for woman.Your own kids may also be full of questions, such as why their friends' dad (or mom) isn't living at their house anymore or whether you're on the road to divorce, too.

Answer their specific questions as they arise ("Yes, Jen and Joe's dad lives in a different place now, but he still loves them very much") without trying to over explain.

"You can say, 'I'm sorry you feel that way, but I still enjoy spending time with Jane. If he's adamant about you breaking it off, you may have to decide if the friendship is worth risking your relationship with your brother, adds Lancer.