Dating another grad student


Meeting people is perhaps the biggest obstacle grads face who are on the dating scene.Think about it: We go to class with the same—and likely small—cohort of people semester after semester, year after year.I'd like to flesh out my thoughts on the matter a bit more here.My basic stand was, and is, that whether or not a relationship within a department is a good idea, the common wisdom seems to advise women away from such relationship far more strongly than it does men.But this is true of any academic pair, even those to get together as undergrads and manage to make the relationship work through grad school and post docs.On more cynical days, I fear the only way for ladies to escape this sort of doubt is pair up with a non-academic.We have extremely busy schedules, and it can be hard to make time to meet new people when you barely have time to hang out with your old friends. Say hi to the cute guy you see in the coffee shop studying every Sunday, or try out a speed dating event.Honestly, the worst thing that can happen is that you have an awesome dating horror story (trust us on this one). You gain the confidence that comes with practice, which only can help you the next time around.



This is a deeper problem than what message this one person sends by dating a professor.No matter what the configuration of fields and departments, I fear that a woman dating a senior man is far more likely to have her work attributed to her partner than in the opposite gender configuration.Any position she gets will likely be rumored to be given to her to keep her partner. The ensuing discussion was mostly about why this is not a good idea (and some about Dr. I'd made a not very deeply thought out comment about the intrinsic sexism in the situation.

The specifics involved a female grad student dating a male professor (not on her committee) in the department.

But what if you’re single and you’d like to start dating?


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    paulette60

    Feb 2, 2012. But what if you're single and you'd like to start dating? What if you also are in graduate school? As we've discovered, dating while you're a graduate student poses its own challenges. Here is some advice from Amy who is happily taken and Katy who is currently negotiating the dating scene.…
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    paulette60

    Aug 8, 2012. At the other extreme is a grad student dating a faculty member in a different field possibly at a different university. I see no problem with this, no matter what the gender distribution. If the relationship works, and the junior woman gets a job at the same university as her partner, she will be plagued by doubts.…
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    paulette60

    Aug 29, 2011. Maybe an easier way to think about this as "what makes a grad student/academic a different dating partner from a working 8-6 person". - Graduate students have a more random schedule - within a working day and throughout the year. Grad students might go weeks or days with very little work and then have tons of work.…
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    paulette60

    Here is a different perspective, maybe. I was friends with a couple that dated in grad school and "successfully broke up". Nobody knew they started dating at first, nor that they had broken up several years later. While dating, they acted only as friends while in lab. During and after the break up, they were civil.…
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