Naturally, you’ll start looking for a new happiness fix. He didn’t criticize marriage, but he encouraged people to accept singleness not as a plague, but as a gift. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.Happiness is not found in people, or things, or accomplishments, it’s found in Christ. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.” -1 Corinthians 7:7-8 I don’t want to give the impression that I feel you must start a relationship off with these standards met in order for it to be successful.If you find a couple that has been together for 40 years and has never experienced trying times, I want to talk to them!Issues are going to arise, that goes back to us being imperfect.If you are not equipped with agape then you are not ready to be married, and if you are not ready to be married then you certainly shouldn’t be looking for a date. Feeling like you’re ready for a relationship does not mean you’re ready for a relationship. For a long time I thought that God only cared about the big, “important” things in my life.
He can’t cradle you in His hands if you’re constantly fighting to jump out! You must be ready to walk steadily beside Christ before you can walk down that aisle.We throw it around on Facebook like it’s a hot potato. It’s a love that we only experience through our connection with the Holy Spirit.In the Greek there are several different words that translate into “love”. We can only share agape when we are yielded to the spirit.Every relationship, whether it is newlyweds or a marriage of 50 years, will hit rough patches.
If when you fall, you both land at the feet of Christ and allow Him to lead you threw it, you will persevere.
As Christians, God should always be our top priority and our chief consultant. The danger with allowing singleness to spawn loneliness is that it often gives rise to desperation.