And to figure that out, we took a list of the 30 busiest US Tinder markets (as provided by the company) and narrowed it down using three important criteria known to increase odds and fuel the flames of "romance": number of bars per 100 people (according to a study by Infogroup Targeting Solutions); percentage of single residents; and lopsided ratios of women to men.Call it a “college town” all you want, Columbus is actually the largest city in America’s seventh-largest state, and it boasts just over four bars per every thousand people.You know what we Much like its baseball team, Boston’s concentration of bars is highly overrated.At 2.62 bars per 1,000 residents, it barely cracks the top 30.In a national study conducted in 2012, the Center for Sexual Health Promotion found sex partners over 50 twice as likely to use a condom when they regarded a sexual encounter as casual rather than as part of an ongoing relationship.Mature sex partners do not have the best track record when it comes to using condoms, but at least they're likelier to use them when they know very little about a partner's sexual past — or present!Marilyn, a 57-year-old single colleague of mine, recently reconnected with someone she had worked with many years ago. "No," Marilyn said with a laugh, "it's better than that: I'm in like with him — and that's exactly where I want to be." She further confided that they planned to make their reunions "a regular thing — if four times a year can be called 'regular.' But I think that's about all I really want." Marilyn's casual approach to maintaining a friendship with benefits typifies the mindset of older folks who have reconciled themselves to having "great fun" even if it's "just one of those things." And episodic pleasure-seeking may be more common than you think: In The Normal Bar, a book I wrote last year with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte, we reported that 61 percent of female survey respondents who had partners fantasized about someone they had met.A few weeks later, she joined him for "a wonderful weekend" in his home state. (For men, the figure was 90 percent.) And should they be propositioned by someone they found attractive, 48 percent of the women (and 69 percent of the men) said they would be tempted to have sex outside the relationship.
But let’s cut the nonsense: nobody really cares about the best city to start a hot sauce company. What we do care about, however, is where we can get the most action with the least amount of effort.For sure, people who associate intimacy with commitment are ill-suited to sex that's as meaningful as a summer breeze; for them, the FWB arrangement would be a bad idea.That doesn't mean all casual lovers feel emotionally bereft in the wake of a purely physical rendezvous, mind you.But then it gets you thinking: You're single, too — what could be so bad about a casual night in bed with someone you like but don't love?
For 50-plus types unwilling to walk — possibly rewalk — the path that leads to romance, rings and relocation, the prospect of a "friend with benefits" is looking less and less like a millennial indulgence.
Charlie Stelle, have been researching the landscape and found that people over 60 represent the most rapidly growing demographic in online dating.